The program is designed to do this so that the other account knows what is happening. Their goal, after all, is to try to help you find a relationship. For the most part, the notifications are almost instant. If Tinder did not notify users when someone liked their message, it could cause miscommunication and let someone think that their responses are not to your liking, which encourages them to seek communication with someone else. There are also circumstances where the user will not receive any form of a push notification if you liked their message, but there is nothing on your end that you can do in regards to that. If they went into their phone’s app settings and turned off the push notifications for Tinder, they will not get any popups on their phone for Tinder communication. Sometimes people choose to do this because they get overwhelmed with the amount of communication or do not want other people around them to see the notifications as they come onto their phone. This does not mean that the other user will never notice your like. Even with their push notifications off, they will still be notified through email if they have given the program permission to send them notifications through their email. They will also be notified if they open the app on their phone.
Accidentally Liked a Message on Tinder
We have all been there, even if it was not necessarily on Tinder. We are casually scrolling through a social media on our phone and our finger accidently hits something that causes you to like a message or a post. Remember that, especially on touchscreen phones, the screen itself is sensitive and can misinterpret a fumble with an intentional decision. If you liked something on Tinder on purpose, there is no need to worry; however, if you have made a mistake, you will likely panic for a few moments. There are a few things that you can do after your slipup, but they will not necessarily undo the damage.
Fix – Unlike It
The first option you have is to immediately unlike the message. If you have made the like in error, this is normally the gut reaction and what a person does to try to undo their action. It will not completely undo the like, but it could cause some confusion for the other user. When you like their message, they will receive a notification in some way. Even if you instantly unlike the message, they will still probably receive the notification. When they go back into your conversation and see that the green heart is no longer there, they will hopefully believe that the error was made on Tinder’s part. Unfortunately, the overall population is way more tech savvy than that, and they will likely figure out that you liked and then unlike whatever they say. While it may make you feel better to see that the message is no longer liked, you need to understand that some things cannot just be undone, even if they look like they are a thing of the past.
Fix 2 – Unmatch Them
So, you have accidently liked a message and you find yourself completely mortified. Maybe they were telling you about their strange hobbies or something that you just cannot see yourself supporting. It does happen all the time. People are always on their best behavior on dating apps like Tinder because they are seeking a relationship, friendship, or some form of bond. Most users will not tell you about their weird rashes or horrifying life story when you first start speaking, especially because they are trying to establish a connection with you. If you accidently liked their gory detail, you might panic and immediately unlike it, but the damage has already been done. If you are trying to save face and avoid an awkward conversation, you can always choose to unmatch the person. If you unmatch them, the conversation is essentially over, but if they are using Tinder at the same time as you, your unmatching them could take a few minutes to take effect. While Tinder tries to catch up with your decision, the other user will be able to see where you two were having a conversation and a red dot will appear. Once Tinder is on the same page as you, you will disappear and they will no longer be able to communicate with you through the app, giving you the opportunity to pretend that it never happened. The other user will not necessarily receive any kind of notification if you unmatch them but they will likely be able to figure out what has happened when they can no longer continue the conversation and the conversation is no longer present in their messages. The only problem with this method is that it is more permanent. If you two were hitting it off fairly well and then things got a little too personal and an accidental like gets thrown in, you will be unable to communicate with them in the future and may hurt their feelings. It is also important to keep in mind that Tinder can recycle potential matches, so you might encounter a user again in the future after you have unmatched them. You need to be sure that you do not match with them again if you are hoping to avoid potential embarrassment or a repeat performance of your last encounter. It is also important to remember that if you provided them with your information for other platforms like Snap Chat, Instagram, or Facebook, they still will have access to you. If you gave them your phone number, they still have that information as well.
Fix 3 – Say It Was An Accident
Honesty is always the best policy, and there is nothing wrong with admitting that you made a mistake. If you are using Tinder, you are probably doing so to meet someone new and form a connection of some kind with them. You do not necessarily need to portray yourself as perfect, especially because perfection is not attainable. You would be setting up your potential relationship for failure if you let someone believe that they are getting a perfect version of you. If you accidently liked a message and did not mean to, you could always just be forthright and tell them that it was an accident. Accidents do happen. You can unlike the liked message, but they will still be notified. Tell them the truth. If you liked a message that made you uncomfortable, say so. If you liked a message that you found to be disturbing, inappropriate, or even just gave you some red flags, tell them. After you tell them, explain why it made you feel that way. While it is possible that the other person may get their feelings hurt, you should always advocate for yourself. The best scenario is that the other person learns from it and stops sending you or anyone else messages that would fall into one of these categories. The worst case scenario is that they get their feelings hurt and become ugly with you, which is still showing you what kind of person you are dealing with. Everything that happens in a conversation between two people is an opportunity to form an idea about what a relationship with them would be like. If they cannot handle a little mistake like accidently liking a message, you now know that they would not be the person that you could turn to if you made a big mistake. If anything, an accident can turn into a really good learning opportunity.
If You Unlike a Message on Tinder Does The Notification Go Away?
If you are not interested, you just swipe and move on with your life with no harm done. It is more complicated because there are things that you can do, even on accident, that can cause hurt feelings or damage a potentially good connection. If you accidently liked a message within Tinder and then unlike the message, there is really nothing that you can do to stop the user from getting a notification. The notification will not disappear on their end just because you changed your mind. It is essentially the online equivalent of thinking before you speak. Even if their push notifications are turned off, they will still be notified through email (assuming that they chose to receive notifications through email) and/or whenever they open their app. You can try to prevent them from getting a notification by unliking the message and immediately unfollowing them, but this is a case-by-case scenario and is not a guarantee that they will never find out. If you choose not to unmatch them and immediately unlike a message that was liked by accident, you can always deny that the message was ever liked in the first place. Tinder has been known to glitch on occasion and sends notifications that are not accurate, which provides you with a potential argument if you are hoping to deny that the accidental like and unlike ever occurred. Because Tinder has profiles for millions of different people, the high volume of the app can potentially create notifications that do not match with what a user sees on their dashboard. Claiming ignorance is a way out, but it could also be considered as dishonest and may not be the method that you want to take if you think that you might actually want to proceed with a conversation with someone on Tinder.
What Happens If You Like and Then Unlike a Message on Tinder?
Essentially, if you like and then unlike a message on Tinder, the other user is going to get a notification. Though they may not see the little heart next to the comment where the notification claims it will be, the notification portion is going to be beyond your control. According to Tinder, it is possible to undo a like, but it is going to cost you. Tinder’s website says that, in the event of a mistake, Tinder subscribers have the option to rewind, or undo, their like, nope, or super like. If you have noticed that this accidental liking is not something that has only happened once and is a reoccurring problem, you can purchase a Tinder subscription. Though the price varies depending on which subscription you choose as well as your age, Tinder has essentially created a scenario where they can profit off of your mistakes. To purchase a subscription, you will need to open the Tinder app and click on your profile. From there, select your settings and then evaluate your subscription options before making your selection. Available subscriptions include a Tinder Plus subscription, which will cost you about $9.99 a month if you are over the age of 30 and $4.99 a month if you are under the age of 30. You will also have the ability to purchase your subscription’s time frame, which includes one month, six months, or a year’s worth of subscription. The cost per month decreases if you choose a longer time frame. Tinder also has the option to select a Tinder Gold subscription, which costs $14.99 per month for users under the age of 30 and $29.99 a month if you are over the age of 30. The cost will per month will also decrease if you choose to be a member for a longer period of time. The last potential option is to subscribe to a Tinder Platinum subscription, which is the most expensive option. Users under the age of 30 are looking at a cost of $19.99 for a one month subscription, while users over the age of 30 will be paying $39.99 a month for the same subscription. Tinder benefits from uncertainty; if you only purchase a monthly subscription and end up needing to continue that subscription, you will have to pay the full price the following month to obtain another one. If you have purchased a longer subscription, for either six months or a year, your card will automatically be charged each month until the subscription runs out. If you meet someone and forget to cancel, Tinder will still profit. If you cancel before the length of your subscription runs out, you will not have to continue to pay, but you will have to start over in terms of purchasing a subscription if the relationship does not work out. A breakdown of each plan is available by Healthy Framework and can be found here. The breakdown includes charts divided by if you are over the age of 30 or under, as well as the plan name, length, monthly cost, and total cost if you continue to keep your subscription for the total amount of time.
1. If They Were Using Their Phone, They Will Know
Though Tinder can sometimes glitch and notifications get sent simultaneously, any user using their phone will know if you like and then subsequently unlike a message. It will not matter if they have turned off their push notifications for the app. If they get email updates from Tinder or open the app, they will be able to see a notification with your name and tell them that you have liked their message. While you may have unliked the message, the notification will remain. Though it may make you feel better to not see the message as liked if you choose to continue the conversation, you will not be able to erase the notification on the other user’s Tinder platform. Your options following your accidental click are minimal. You can pretend like it did not happen, but you may not be successful in attempting to fool the other user. You can unmatch the person, but you then you are potentially throwing away a good conversation and potential relationship because of an accidental slip-up, or you could tell them the truth. Though the truth might cause you to have to explain your mistake, it could also provide you with a chance to see how the other deals with the situation and provides insight as to whether they might be a person that you want to continue to have a conversation and eventual possible relationship with.
2. If You Do It Fast Enough, The Like May Not Be Registered and Show Up As A Notification on Their Phone
If you have fingers like lightning, you could potentially unlike an accidently liked message and benefit from Tinder’s occasional glitches. If you immediately unlike the message, there is a possibility that the like will not register with Tinder fast enough. This would still cause the user to eventually get a notification, but the availability of doubt is now present if you want to try to deny that it ever happened.
